Test 3
Using artificial intelligence without losing your voice
If you strip away the tech jargon, the demos, and the hype, the number one question women ask about AI isn’t technical at all.
It’s this:
“Will this make me less… me?”
It shows up in a hundred different ways.
“Is it cheating if I use this?”
“Will people think I didn’t really do the work?”
“Am I being lazy?”
“Will this erase my voice?”
“Will I start sounding generic?”
“Is this ethical?”
On the surface, these sound like questions about tools.
They’re not.
They’re questions about identity, credibility, and worth.
Men, broadly speaking, tend to ask:
“How do I use this to go faster?”
Women tend to ask:
“How do I use this without losing myself?”
That difference matters.
Because women are:
Socialized to be authentic
Penalized for shortcuts
Judged more harshly for competence
Carrying more invisible labor
Already stretched thin
So when a tool shows up and promises “do it faster,” what many women actually hear is:
“Do it worse.”
“Do it dishonestly.”
“Pay for relief with your credibility.”
That fear is real.
And almost no one in the AI space is willing to name it.
Honest AI exists to answer that question directly.
You don’t lose your voice when you use AI.
You lose your voice when you don’t tell it who you are.
Used well, AI doesn’t replace your thinking.
It reflects it.
Amplifies it.
Lightens the mental load so your real work has room to breathe.
This newsletter isn’t about hacks.
Or productivity theater.
Or pretending that technology is neutral or magical.
It’s about using AI with intention—
in a way that protects your voice, your ethics, and your sense of self.
No hype.
No shame.
No pretending the fear isn’t there.
Just honest conversations about how to use these tools to help serve our lives
without disappearing inside them.